Resources for supporting children through Coronavirus
Supporting children in unsettled times (COVID-19)
This information has been produced by our Educational Psychologist Team to give you some guidance on dealing with the coronavirus situation. This is intended for families and children during this period of the coronavirus pandemic.
These are unsettling times and you may be concerned and worried about the next few months.
However, we know from previous experience that children of all ages and stages do best when they are supported by the adults who are closest to them. The ideas below are suggestions about how you can support your child and yourself during this time.
Offering a listening ear
Depending on their age, children will have already picked up a lot of information about COVID-19 from school, their friends, social media, the news, or from listening to and watching the reactions of others around them, including their parents/carers.
It is important to provide opportunities for children to express their thoughts and feelings about the current situation. All behaviour is a form of communication. What looks like ‘acting out’ may be your child’s way of expressing worry about what is going to happen over the next few months.
Depending on their age, offer appropriate reassurance to your child. This should be around how you express your love in a way that shows openly how you care and understand how your child(ren) maybe feeling.
Make more family time, or reminders that they are safe and that you are there to look after them. Let your child know that it is normal to be worried and upset sometimes. If your child does see you getting upset, use this as an opportunity for them to learn that these feelings won’t last forever.
Provide the right amount of accurate information
It is important that you give honest answers to your child’s questions about COVID-19. Giving factual information is very important to ensure that misinformation and a vivid imagination doesn’t make things seem scarier.
However, always remember to adjust the information you give by thinking about the age of your child and their ability to cope and process information. For example an S3 child will be able to understand the concept of a pandemic, but a P4 child will cope better if you explain that there is a bug going around that can make people feel a bit unwell and that most people recover.
Providing practical advice is important for example, talk about handwashing and staying 2m apart from people outside your household. The NHS Inform website has information to help you with this..
Emphasise strengths and helping
It can be helpful for both you and your child to remember back to other times when things were difficult, but you managed to cope and get through. Focus on your own and your child’s strengths to get through this time. Sometimes thinking about helping others can make us feel better. For example, telephone calls to friends and family can be reframed as your child’s way of helping others.
Try to follow a routine
Try to continue with whatever normal family routines that you can. If you are self–isolating, try to keep normal waking hours. If you normally eat together as a family, continue to do that. Think about structuring the weekdays around pieces of school work your 4+ child may have been set, and treat weekends a bit more like ‘fun’ - play games, have a movie night and so on. It can be helpful to break the day up[ into small chunks of activity whatever your child’s age.
Consider this period of time as an opportunity
Although this may feel hard, look on this time as an opportunity to do more things together as a family. Have fun reading, playing and learning life skills together.
Look after yourself
This is a difficult time for everyone, and we all cope with stressful times in different ways. It is important to make sure you look after your own health and wellbeing so that you can continue to support your child and others who rely on you. This means keeping a routine yourself, maintaining contact with friends and family, exercising, and eating and drinking healthily. Although it can be helpful to keep up-to-date with official guidance and information about COVID-19, try to limit the amount of unnecessary exposure you all have; this can increase worry. Instead, look for positive online messages and supports.
A new free resource from Solihull Online helps parents and carers in Scotland understand child behaviour and development and improve parent-child relationship. It is available until May 2022 - just enter the code OWEN123- to access the resources which include:
- Understanding your child
- Understanding your teenager's brain
There are lots ideas and free activities on this blog.
- Supporting children in unsettled times (COVID-19)
- Resources for children with additional support needs
- Keeping safe at home and online
Psychological Services COVID-19 helpline
Advice and support for school staff, professional, parents, carers and young people. Available Monday-Friday, 10am-3pm. (Leave a message)Phone: 01698455800
Email: Psychological Services COVID-19 helpline