Violence against Women and Girls Strategic Partnership in South Lanarkshire

Domestic abuse is about one person using power and control over another. It can include emotional, psychological, sexual, financial or physical abuse. It can happen to anyone, at any time. Most victims are women and children, but men can be abused too. Abuse can also happen in same sex relationships. If you are worried about your safety, help is available.

Abuse is never your fault. It is not caused by stress, alcohol, money problems or mental health. Only the abuser is responsible.

What domestic abuse can look like

Domestic abuse is often ongoing, not a one‑off incident. It may include:

• threatening or frightening behaviour
• controlling money, phones or who you see
• emotional put‑downs or constant criticism
• sexual pressure or harm
• physical violence

You do not have to experience all of these for it to be abuse.

Keeping yourself and your children safe

If you may need to leave quickly, planning ahead can help. If it feels safe to do so, try to:

• keep important phone numbers written down
• have your mobile phone and a charger ready
• keep key documents together, such as ID, medical or legal papers
• keep some money aside
• pack a small bag with clothes, toiletries and medication
• store your bag somewhere safe outside your home if possible

Feeling safer day to day

Whether you have left or are still living with the abusive person, you can:

• tell someone you trust what is happening
• ask neighbours to call the police if they hear concerns
• let schools or childcare know who can collect your children
• tell health staff how injuries happened
• make your home more secure if you can
• talk calmly with your children about staying safe

Always think about what feels safest for you and your children.

Get help now

• if you are in immediate danger, call 999
• for non‑emergency police help, call 101
• Scotland’s Domestic Abuse and Forced Marriage Helpline Call 0800 027 1234 for more information, advice and support
• Women’s Aid South Lanarkshire and East Renfrewshire Call 01355 249897
• Men’s Advice Line Call 0808 801 0327

These services are free and confidential.